Hola amigas! This series has been my favorite thing I've done blog-wise, I love getting to read all the different takes on motherhood from my amazing mama friends. Closing out #DearMama yall know (or may not know lol) I had to do my sis/bestie/confidant Jalyssa. Get to know her below and you'll see why I love her so 🖤
A little bit about her
Hola, Im Jalyssa! A 20 something year old chica who mothers 3 incredible boys & is wifey to the dopest man! I'm a lover of Jesus & encouraging people. I dabble in many things but my true passion lies in those 2. That's what I want to spend my life doing; loving God, loving people, & living fully alive. xoxo
What does motherhood mean to you?
When I think of motherhood I think of glory. I guess I see glory as the synonym to motherhood. When used as a verb glory means to take great pride or pleasure in. Motherhood is hard, yet fulfilling. It is messy, but all beautiful. Being a mother is a never ending giving of yourself, but also the never ending receiving of love. Glory as a noun means magnificent, beautiful. So to me, motherhood is just glorious.
Best/Toughest moment of motherhood?
Geez my best moment of motherhood was the day I realized my life was no longer my own. Which was also the toughest. This can sum up all of the hard & amazing things. That moment when I looked at my 1st born's little face, man I was crazy exhausted, but he needed me. Then I knew, I would forever be needed. He could not survive without me at this point in his life & in some way, I knew that would always be the case. SO that was it, my moment.
The moment I stepped not this new role God had given me & chose selflessness. That is probably the hardest thing about motherhood because, well, mama needs some attention too! But when I stepped back and realized what it means to be selfless, I thought about Jesus & my whole perspective shifted. Now here I am, 3 little dope human beings calling me mama, requiring ALL of my attention. . . my time. . . my being. But that's ok, because they give me just as much as they take from me. That is my absolute favorite thing about motherhood, giving all of me to them & then watching God water that & make it grow into something beautiful.
What has motherhood taught you?
Motherhood has taught me that grace & mercy should be a never-ending stream running through my veins. I have to be able to receive it & give it constantly. Mainly because I am a HOT MESS majority of the time & that usually makes me feel down & out. . . like I'm not fit for the job. Then I think about mercy, I'm forgiven. . . grace, I'm loved & accepted. Now I am able to keep going. And then when my boys are buggin & thuggin grace & mercy flows from me to them. It's a cycle Id like to stay in with all of my relationships. I never really thought much about these 2 things until I became a mom, mostly because motherhood didn't come "natural" to me. But as I kept walking it out, receiving grace & mercy, I felt empowered, able, fit for the job.
Motherhood is special, a true gift from God. So often I can overlook the importance of my "work" in raising these boys. But I have been given the key to the next generation, my boys are the mark I will leave on this world. They are the seeds I'm sowing for a beautiful harvest in the future. So every single day of my life I will be all in, 1,000% devoted to the call. Motherhood is a calling, & it's a pretty dope call to answer.
And that wraps #DearMama up! Thank y'all for reading and riding with ya girl and my amazing friends. Until next time!